Monday, 11 February 2019

We don't celebrate Valentine's Day

We don't celebrate Valentine's Day. It hasn't always been this way though. As pre-teen, Valentine's Day was always super important and buying a card for your crush seemed like the most important thing in the world. Do kids still do this??? My three certainly show no interest but in the 90s/00s, it was definitely the done thing. It is ALL me and my friends would talk about.

We don't celebrate Valentine's Day

Then in the teenage years, Valentine's Days with my boyfriends were always still very important. Those tacky cards, soft toys and cheesy gifts were always treasured and made us feel special. I think this is the time when Valentine's definitely still has its place. I kind of feel like sending Valentine's cards and gifts to your teenage boyfriend/girlfriend is a right of passage and all part of growing up. I can't ever imagine us saying to each other not to bother at that age.

When Steve and I first got together, we still celebrated and I think that most young couples do as it's the done thing and you just go along with convention. When the kids were little we'd use it as an excuse to book a babysitter, get dressed up and go out. Well why not?

Over the past 3-4 years though, we haven't really bothered celebrating and I think this is for a number of reasons:

1 - Steve has always been very against buying cards and thinks that Valentine's is just a commercialised event designed for us all to spend more money on things we don't need because we have to. It's taken me a while, but I've finally come around to his way of thinking. We don't need a card shop to tell us to be romantic. It all kind of feels forced.

2 - I've dined out over Valentine's a few times and often it can just feel so fake. Sometimes (not always), restaurants just use Valentine's as an excuse to put their prices up and serve expensive set menus. Have you ever sat in a restaurant full of couples on Valentine's night? It's just not for me. It is almost as if we are being forced into being romantic and having a good time just because it's Feb 14th.

3 - We don't need a card or a cute teddy bear to show each other we love each other. We are one of *those* couples who say we love each other 5+ times per day (and mean it) anyway, we already put importance on romance and spending quality time together but it's just something we try and work on every single day, not just on one day because we have to. I think really showing you love someone is so much more than a cheap card, it's more about the little things in everyday life that matter.

4 - We've been together for 18 years this year (OMG) and I think that it's just got to the stage in our relationship where we just can't be bothered with it all. Is that bad??? I'd definitely take dinner on the sofa watching Netflix over a contrived romantic meal for the sake of it. I guess what I'm trying to say is we're content and just don't feel the need to follow convention anymore.

This post isn't designed to say you're wrong for celebrating Valentine's Day - I think every couple is different and I actually love seeing all those beautiful bunches of roses and lovely cards posted on Social Media. What I'm trying to say though is if you don't want to celebrate Valentine's Day or choose not to, then that's also ok too and you're not alone in feeling like this and it doesn't mean you love your partner any less. Just do whatever works for you - like us, the way you celebrate may evolve over time OR you might still be sending each other Valentine's cards until you're 100 which I think is pretty sweet too.

Do you celebrate Valentine's Day? I'd love to hear your thoughts..... 

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We don't celebrate Valentine's Day


  1. ha ha I bet you are surprised to hear we don't celebrate valentine's either! i'm too cynical for all that!

  2. Yes to all of your reasons, Sam .. much like my own ... #TheValentine Grinch ... lol!!!

  3. My 11 year old has bought her boyfriend a card and a chocolate heart shaped lollipop and all her friends are getting cards for their crushes so it's still done. hehehe
    We don't really celebrate it either. We did years ago when our relationship was brand new but that's it.

  4. Haha! Oh the school days of sending 'anonymous' cards to people!
    I agree, with your points though. There seems to be a day and card for everything these days. (Bloody American's, as my dad would say! Haha!) My husband and I swap cards, but that's it really. We might get some steak in and have a nice tea at home when children are in bed. :)



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